08-07-2008, 11:44 AM
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Join Date: May 2008
Location: MD
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Originally Posted by La Morena
What could you possibly mean by this? I am so confused.  Are you saying she wanted to be mean ***yes***because she is dark-skinned ****her skin color never mattered to me, but it did to her****and therefore inferior to you ****and what could you possibly mean by this???*** and the police (also an authority figure in her eyes). This is what Thomas is talking about. Whenever we correlate someones character to their race or appeareance, we only demonstrate our own prejudices and complexes. It is never o.k. to reduce people to the traits or characteristics that WE deem important. My dear***please do not pratonize me***, THAT WOULD leave the whole world blind or at least hurt a lot of feelings ****who is correlating and reducing people to traits that they deem important now?***.
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Wow! I never thought I'd get flamed!!!!  Geez, relax people, please.
I'm just defending myself. It's my friend who has issues, I'm just reiterating her issues.
I have nothing againt anyone. We are all different, if we were are the same we would be very boring.
She was my BEST FRIEND, I loved her to death and I never saw her as inferior to me or anyone, but she always had issues when it came to skin color. Maybe it was the area she lived in, where she grew up, or a combination of both.
Regardless, I meant nothing it. I was just using her as an example of the tone of voice people use to say things, and the thread is about the word gringo (which by all means is white person- or so i thought...read below). Hense her calling me white girl when she was annoyed at me for the silliest thing and the tone of voice she used. She never called me a "white girl" in a silly sense, or jokingly.
The entire message was only meant to be used as an example for the tone of voice she used. Not to flame her or make me sound mean. Not at all.
Like Scott said, maybe I could have explained it more, I was not being politically correct or something. Someone (in this case me) is always going to say/write something that is going to offend someone else, even if the writer meant no offense (like me in this case).
If I offended someone, I am sorry. Forgive me for using a wrong example, hopefull next time I'll try to use another example that will not cause another equally intensive flame job (I do love my head, helps me to stay alive, please don't bite it off)  .
PS By the way, my friend says that her "black husband gets called gringo all the time" (all her words, hence the quotation mark- I am on the phone with her as I write this). And I'm not trying to start anything, just letting folks know that gringo isn't used just for white folks as we all thought.  I just got schooled myself by my friend. Apparently gringo is not used only for white people, her family calls everyone born in the US a gringo. She gets called a gringa all the time just because she was born here. And she asked me to write that she "doesn't take it offensively".
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"An eye for an eye leaves the whole world blind"
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